Цитаты из книги Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm

Increase attention rather than pressure. Fill up before you extend outward. Follow your desire until turn-on flows. If it feels like work, change the stroke. When in doubt, play. Such a switch requires nothing less than a reworking of your entire relationship to your own desire. Taking desire from the cranky passenger in…

Regular Sex / Slow Sex Looking good / Feeling good Guidebooks, rules, and instructions / Native wisdom Obligation / Desire Fantasizing / Attention to sensation Making sex happen / Letting sex happen Volume / Potency Increasing sensation through pressure / Increasing sensation through attention Linear / Meandering…

... It means learning to savor an experience that we are used to pushing through. When we take climax as our goal—rather than simply feeling each stroke along the way—we tend to crash through sex, picking up speed as we go. It’s like we’re pushing through a windstorm, striving to reach the finish line. As a result, we…

I am always surprised when I talk to new coaching clients and discover how very little communication they have during sex. Communication is connection. Honest, revealing dialogue opens our interior world so that another person can actually know us deeply.

My grandma was teaching me the most important lesson of cooking, but also of living: anything you really get into relationship with will reveal its secrets to you. All you have to do is stand in the kitchen with an open mind and heart, recognizing the honor of cooking food for your family. The recipe will come. This is a…

The men desperately (more desperately than their partners can possibly imagine) want to be better at pleasing their women. On the surface level, they know that the more she’s getting out of sex, the more often they’ll have it. The deeper desire they have—which many of them aren’t even aware of—is the desire to have sex…

...we learn to shift our focus from thinking to feeling, from a goal orientation to an experience orientation. This shift turns all our expectations about sex on their head, exchanging “faster” and “harder” for “slower” and “more connected.” There is no longer any planned outcome to sex, no goal—not even climax—that is…