Цитаты из книги The Undefeated Mind: On the Science of Constructing an Indestructible Self

Chapter 10. Muster your courage “Few things have as much power to make us suffer as fear. More than merely an obstacle to strength, fear is nearly its antithesis, for nothing weakens us quite as much.” “Further, because fear feels bad, when we can’t escape the things that cause it, we often try to stop the feeling itself.…

Chapter 9. Encourage others “Which suggests that the reason love makes us feel good has less to do with romantic attraction or even personal connection than it does with the way it causes us to regard those for whom we feel it. That is to say, not just with empathy (according to Oxford Dictionaries Online, “understanding…

Chapter 8 . Appreciate the good “Studies suggest that positive emotions in general play a key role in increasing resilience. They diminish physiologic stress by reducing heart rate and blood pressure, as well as broaden the scope, creativity, and flexibility of our thinking, which increases our ability to cope with…

Chapter 7. Let go “But in those cases in which the thing for which we hope is destined not to occur, hope does indeed stand between us and peace, blocking as it does our ability to feel the one thing that might bring us peace: acceptance of the inevitable.” “And wanting something we can’t have is awful: tethered to…

Chapter 6. Accept pain “Studies have further shown that expecting pain to be severe worsens our experience of it, and expecting it to be mild improves it. Further, being psychologically braced for pain also lessens its unpleasantness. This is true regardless of its cause, whether it’s from a medical procedure done for our…

Chapter 5. Stand alone “This represents the Nichiren Buddhist view, that not only is karma alterable but alterable only by actions we ourselves take—this, because karma is created by actions we ourselves have taken” “This isn’t to suggest, however—and this is crucial—that we’re to blame for what happens to us, or worse…

Chapter 4 . Expect obstacles “Similarly, according to Nichiren Buddhism, though obstacles invariably arise in the course of goal pursuit, because of our innate capacity to learn from them, we’re able to use them to generate the very thing that enables us to overcome them: strength” “Our minds are story-telling machines,…