Цитаты из произведения How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen

Seeing someone well is a powerfully creative act. No one can fully appreciate their own beauty and strength unless those things are mirrored back to them in the mind of another. There is something is being seen that brings forth a growth. If you beam the light of your attention on me, I blossom. If you see great potential…

Aldous Huxley captures the core reality: "Experience is not what happens to you, it's what you do with what happens to you".

Like any artist, each person takes the experiences of a lifetime and integrates them into a complex representation of the world. That representation, the subjective consciousness that makes you you, integrates your memories, attitudes, beliefs, convictions, traumas, loves, fears, desires, and goals into your own distinct…

Each person actively constructs their own perception of reality. That's not to say there is not an objective reality out there. It's to say that we have only subjective access to it.

The universe is a drab, silent, colorless place. I mean this quite literally. There is no such thing as color and sound in the universe; it's just a bunch of waves and particles. But because we have creative minds, we perceive sound and music, tastes and smells, color and beauty, awe and wonder.

A good conversation sparks you to have thoughts you never had before. A good conversation starts in one place and ends up in another.

When another person is talking, you want to be listening so actively that you're practically burning calories.

Human beings need recognition as much as they need food and water. No crueler punishment can be devised than to not see someone, to render them unimportant or invisible. <...> To do that is to say: You don't matter. You don't exist. On the other hand, there are few things as fulfilling as that sense of being seen and…

You can't make the big decisions in life well unless you're able to understand others. If you are going to marry someone, you have to know not just about that person's looks, interests, and career prospects but how the pains of their childhood show up in their adulthood, whether their deepest longings align with your own.