You can't make the big... «How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen»

You can't make the big decisions in life well unless you're able to understand others. If you are going to marry someone, you have to know not just about that person's looks, interests, and career prospects but how the pains of their childhood show up in their adulthood, whether their deepest longings align with your own.