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For some women, it is thrilling to dance with a master of death. If a woman is seeking excitement, passion, a meaning to life, loving a murderer can make her feel intensely alive. She becomes important, perhaps notorious, because she loves a man who has killed.

Whatever type of murder a man has committed, a woman in love with him often faces the same stigma he does. Society generally believes that a woman who loves a criminal is likely to be a criminal herself. People think a murderer’s wife or girlfriend might herself be capable of killing; she is guilty by association and…

Some women who love murderers are rebels, creating drama out of the stuff of their everyday lives because they have no other outlet for feelings of aggression and daring. Because their self-image is so weak, they are attracted by a life on the edge. These women reject what is culturally endorsed and are attracted to…

Women who love killers take low self-esteem to its furthest reaches: I wasn’t worth anything to my parents. I’m not worth anything to me. So I’ll go after someone that society has branded unacceptable. “I would be amazed if they weren’t among the neediest and most dependent of women. As in the transference cure in…

Chronic, repeated abuse has the effect of suppressing the mechanism that allows us to feel happy, to trust, to love, and to care about others. This is why so many abused girls grow up to be women who can’t really love but must form illusory relationships with inappropriate men—such as murderers. These women often go…

We must keep in mind the difference between “prison wives,” “women who love too much,” women who are addicted to love relationships—and women who love murderers. Murderers are special. Women who love murderers are special, also, although they share some characteristics and qualities with women addicted to love…

Each woman in love with a killer views her man as her salvation: He will save her from loneliness, from selling herself in the meat market of singles bars where rejection is always a threat, from the potential sexual threat of other men. And by making him into a knight, a hero, the woman dilutes what is perhaps the…

Romantic love can be an emotion felt by one person and directed at another—a feeling that considers the happiness and well-being of the beloved as most important. Or romantic love can be an illusion, a reflection of the lover’s own desires and fantasies. “Hence the popular idiom that love is blind, for a lover projects…

Falling in love is “prompted by an internal psychological state,” said Dr. Ethel Person. H. G. Wells wrote of “the Lover Shadow,” an explanation for love at first sight. If a woman sees someone and instantly loves him, it’s likely he fits her image of her lover shadow. The lover shadow “is made up of many, many different…

Women who love murderers, like everyone else looking for love, are seeking transcendence, elevation above the daily routines of life, completion, a feeling of being totally united with another so the self can never again feel the awfulness of existential loneliness. This falling in love, to most of these women, means…