Цитаты из книги Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy

Positive self-talk is not about placating yourself, trying to falsely boost your ego or being self-delusional. It is about having an inner dialogue that is forgiving, understanding, flexible and holds a larger, often more realistic, perspective than the negative, defeated or abusive self-talk that we often tolerate as the…

At the home level, trauma, discrimination and attachment ruptures can arise from: - Becoming a target from neighbors, housing associations or landlords because of being nonmonogamous. - Evictions or denial of housing because you are nonmonogamous. - The inability to find housing with your partners because of laws that…

Research shows that it takes babies up to seven months for their attachment to their caregivers to become securely established, and for adults, a securely attached romantic relationship takes approximately two years to really solidify.

•compersion is feeling of joy when witnessing a partner’s happiness in another romantic relationship. Compersion reflects understanding of the fact that other loving relationships enhance overall wellbeing of all involved parties  •people with dismissive attachment style have difficulties with access and consistent being…

Attachment styles are not static! If you experienced an insecurely attached childhood you can still go on to have healthy securely attached adult relationships, experiencing what is called an earned secure attachment.