Дэвид Брукс — новинки

As David Brooks observes, “There is one skill that lies at the heart of any healthy person, family, school, community organization, or society: the ability to see someone else deeply and make them feel seen—to accurately know another person, to let them feel valued, heard, and understood.”

And yet we humans don’t do this well. All around us are people who feel invisible, unseen, misunderstood. In How to Know a Person, Brooks sets out to help us do better, posing questions that are essential for all of us: If you want to know a person, what kind of attention should you cast on them? What kind of conversations should you have? What parts of a person’s story should you pay attention to?

Driven by his trademark sense of curiosity and his determination to grow as a person, Brooks draws from the fields of psychology and neuroscience and from the worlds of theater, philosophy, history, and education to present a welcoming, hopeful, integrated approach to human connection. How to Know a Person helps readers become more understanding and considerate toward others, and to find the joy that comes from being seen. Along the way it offers a possible remedy for a society that is riven by fragmentation, hostility, and misperception.

The act of seeing another person, Brooks argues, is profoundly creative: How can we look somebody in the eye and see something large in them, and in turn, see something larger in ourselves? How to Know a Person is for anyone searching for connection, and yearning to be understood.

Мы привыкли ставить себе четкие цели: построить дом, завести семью, заработать хорошую репутацию, стать успешным. Мы преодолеваем препятствия, достигаем вершины… и вдруг понимаем, что эта победа нас не радует. Вершина оказалась не нашей. И тогда наступает кризис. Дэвид Брукс, автор мирового бестселлера «Путь к характеру», утверждает: чтобы вновь обрести почву под ногами и выйти на абсолютно новый уровень, нужно посмотреть на мир иначе. Использовать личный опыт, чтобы осознать, что нужно именно вам. Увидеть вторую вершину. Она не противоположна первой. Взобраться на нее – не значит отвергнуть свой предыдущий успех. Это просто новое путешествие, которое принесет истинное счастье.

Мы привыкли ставить себе четкие цели: построить дом, завести семью, заработать хорошую репутацию, стать успешным. Мы преодолеваем препятствия, достигаем вершины… и вдруг понимаем, что эта победа нас не радует. Вершина оказалась не нашей. И тогда наступает кризис.

Дэвид Брукс, автор мирового бестселлера "Путь к характеру", утверждает: чтобы вновь обрести почву под ногами и выйти на абсолютно новый уровень, нужно посмотреть на мир иначе.

Использовать личный опыт, чтобы осознать, что нужно именно вам. Увидеть вторую вершину. Она не противоположна первой. Взобраться на нее — не значит отвергнуть свой предыдущий успех. Это просто новое путешествие, которое принесет истинное счастье.

Are you on your first or second mountain?
Is life about you - or others?
About success - or something deeper?

The world tells us that we should pursue our self-interest: career wins, high status, nice things. These are the goals of our first mountain. But at some point in our lives we might find that we're not interested in what other people tell us to want. We want the things that are truly worth wanting.

This is the second mountain.

What does it mean to look beyond yourself and find a moral cause? To forget about independence and discover dependence - to be utterly enmeshed in a web of warm relationships? What does it mean to value intimacy, devotion, responsibility and commitment above individual freedom? In The Second Mountain David Brooks explores the meaning and possibilities that scaling a second mountain offer us and the four commitments that most commonly move us there: family, vocation, philosophy and community. Inspiring, personal and full of joy, this book will help you discover why you were really put on this earth.

Every so often, you meet people who radiate joy—who seem to know why they were put on this earth, who glow with a kind of inner light. Life, for these people, has often followed what we might think of as a two-mountain shape. They get out of school, they start a career, and they begin climbing the mountain they thought they were meant to climb. Their goals on this first mountain are the ones our culture endorses: to be a success, to make your mark, to experience personal happiness. But when they get to the top of that mountain, something happens. They look around and find the view . . . unsatisfying. They realize: This wasn’t my mountain…

Юмор, мудрость, любопытство и способность открывать интересные идеи сделали Дэвида Брукса популярным автором — его колонки в New York Times читают миллионы.

В своей новой книге он рассматривает истории людей, каждый из которых прошел свой путь к сильному характеру. Августин и Сэмюэл Джонсон, Филип Рэндольф и Джордж Элиот, Фрэнсис Перкинс и Дороти Дэй... Черные и белые, мужчины и женщины, религиозные и светские, образованные и необразованные — очень разные, но каждый из них вел борьбу со своим несовершенством, смог осознать свои слабости и выработать сильный характер.

Отдавай, чтобы получить. Покорись внешнему — и обретешь внутреннюю силу. Побеждай свои желания — и получишь желаемое. Успех оборачивается величайшим поражением — гордыней. Поражение оборачивается величайшим успехом — смирением и уроком. Чтобы реализовать себя, нужно забыть о себе. Чтобы найти себя, нужно себя потерять.

«Радость — это побочный продукт, она приходит к людям, которые нацеливаются на что-то большее. Но она обязательно приходит», — пишет Брукс.

“I wrote this book not sure I could follow the road to character, but I wanted at least to know what the road looks like and how other people have trodden it.”—David Brooks With the wisdom, humor, curiosity, and sharp insights that have brought millions of readers to his New York Times column and his previous bestsellers, David Brooks has consistently illuminated our daily lives in surprising and original ways. In The Social Animal, he explored the neuroscience of human connection and how we can flourish together. Now, in The Road to Character, he focuses on the deeper values that should inform our lives. Responding to what he calls the…

Книга американского социолога и журналиста Дэвида Брукса посвящена описанию нового класса, возникшего за последние двадцать лет в США. Для обозначения этого класса автор придумал неологизм "бобо" (bourgeois bohemians, богемная буржуазия). Русским читателям более известны другие определения — хипстеры, креативный или образованный класс. Но как бы ни менялись названия или национальная специфика, перед нами новая глобальная элита, соединившая в своем этосе демократизм и элитизм, уважение к образованию и финансовую состоятельность, творчество и корпоративный бизнес.

Путеводитель по миру "бобо" — возможность узнать о привычках и происхождении элиты информационного века, то есть возможность понять и принять ее.

Один из главных научно-популярных бестселлеров последнего времени, книга о том, как наши инстинкты и эмоции формируют наш характер и, в конце концов, определяют всю нашу жизнь — и личную, и общественную. Но одновременно это и увлекательный семейный роман, написанная с большим юмором история двух наших современников — их любви, их карьеры, взросления, странствия по жизни и все более тесного слияния друг с другом. Есть много книг, рассказывающих о том, как мы живем. ""Общественное животное"" — это книга о том, почему мы живем именно так. И о том, как начать жить иначе.

Книга американского социолога и журналиста Дэвида Брукса посвящена описанию нового класса, возникшего за последние двадцать лет в США. Для обозначения этого класса автор придумал неологизм "бобо" (bourgeois bohemian, богемная буржуазия). Русским читателям более известны другие определения - хипстеры, креативный или образованный класс. Но как бы ни менялись названия или национальная специфика, перед нами новая глобальная элита, соединившая в своем этосе демократизм и элитизм, уважение к образованию и финансовую состоятельность, творчество и корпоративный бизнес. Путеводитель по миру "бобо" - возможность узнать о привычках и происхождении…

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With unequaled insight and brio, New York Times columnist David Brooks has long explored and explained the way we live. Now Brooks turns to the building blocks of human flourishing in a multilayered, profoundly illuminating work grounded in everyday life. This is the story of how success happens, told through the lives of one composite American couple, Harold and Erica. Drawing on a wealth of current research from numerous disciplines, Brooks takes Harold and Erica from infancy to old age, illustrating a fundamental new understanding of human nature along the way: The unconscious mind, it turns out, is not a dark, vestigial place, but a creative one, where most of the brain’s work gets done. This is the realm where character is formed and where our most important life decisions are made—the natural habitat of The Social Animal. Brooks reveals the deeply social aspect of our minds and exposes the bias in modern culture that overemphasizes rationalism, individualism, and IQ. He demolishes conventional definitions of success and looks toward a culture based on trust and humility. The Social Animal is a moving intellectual adventure, a story of achievement and a defense of progress. It is an essential book for our time—one that will have broad social impact and will change the way we see ourselves and the world.

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"Bobo" is author David Brooks' acronym for a Bourgeois Bohemian, a synthesis of Reaganism and Woodstock, the folks he says are running the country today. Bobos are new money--the meritocracy of smart folk who have become rich as fast-track professionals, clever enterpreneurs, start-up capitalists, or visionaries like Bill Gates and Jeff Bezos. Some Bobos are capitalistic hippies and some are mellowed-out business people; Bobo is their common meeting ground. True to their mixed heritage, Bobos love oxymoronic concepts like "sustainable development," "cooperative individualism" or "liberation management." Reconciliation is their middle name.

Bobos dislike showing off, but of course all rich people do, so they are allowed to show off in discreet ways. Mercedes are out, but SUV's are in. Jewelry is out, but eco-tourism is in. Bobox buy the same things the rest of us do (bread, chicken, coffee) but pay from 3 to 10 times the mass-market price in search of something better, organic, or more planet-friendly. In fact, anything that shows one to be a friend to the planet is fair game, no matter how silly. There's even a toothpaste that encourages germs to leave the mouth.

Needless to say, it takes a huge income to be a true Bobo. Brooks almost had this reviewer feeling sorry for the poor U. of Chicago professor forced to live on a "mere" household income of $180K, barely enough to cover private schools for her kids and a nanny. The wretch suffers from what Brooks calls "status-income disequilibrium" or "SID" because her pay, while handsome, pales before her similarly educated peers in the professions and business, with whom she has to socialize at symposia.

America teems with the newly rich. Bobos are most easily spotted in "Latte Towns" like Madison, Wisconsin or Northampton, Massachusetts. Ideally, such venues have "a Swedish-style government, German-style pedestrian malls, Victorian houses, Native American crafts, Italian coffee, Berkeley human rights groups, and Beverly Hills income levels." That's where you'll see the businessman wearing hiking boots patiently explaining 401(k) plans to the aging hippie who's making a killing selling bicyles, or software, or sandwiches.

Brooks is at his best describing the furbelows and follies of Bobo-dom. But Bobos in Paradise is really two books in one. Massive amounts of this text could have been computer cut-and-pasted from a work called something like American Intellectual History: 1955-2000. Sometimes Brooks maintains a light tone (without being truly funny), sometimes he is merely factual. I really didn't need to hear three times how tendentious the old Partisan Review gang was back in the fifties. I didn't really need to hear how a Bobo should act on a political chat show (smile a lot and be positive). I didn't really need to hear how TV has coopted intellectual life (that process began in the fifties with J. Fred Muggs and Steve-a-reeno, before most Bobos were born, and it was dealt with much better in the book Nobrow, anyway).

Don't get me wrong, the funny parts of this book are quite funny, and for that reason alone I'm giving it four stars. If it had been consistently funny and satiric I would have given it five. I came real close to giving it a three because the slow stretches, while not inaccurate, did little to further the author's thesis. If you intend to write pop sociology, better to write first-rate pop sociology than second-rate academic sociology.

One point to ponder is whether the term "Bobo" will catch on. In 1945 no one had heard of a "Highbrow" and in 1980 no one knew what a "Yuppie" was. And there were plenty of columnists who said that we didn't need such words, yet they became coin of the realm anyway. If it strikes you that your local rich people are starting to act like a fusion of Richard Gere and Bill Gates, or Al Gore and Jerry Garcia, then maybe the Bobo moniker might just cover them all. Hopeless trendoids, take note and read this book before the inevitable paperback edition.