Лучшие книги Беверли Энгл

Женщины постоянно мирятся с неприемлемым или даже жестоким обращением со стороны окружающих, в особенности мужчин. Мне становится грустно каждый раз, когда я слышу от женщин о плохом обращении. И, хотя ответ мне известен, я часто ловлю себя на мысли: "Почему они терпят все это?". Еще больше меня печалит то, что эти женщины переживают за своих абьюзеров. "Как же он без меня", — самая распространенная реакция на разговоры о выходе из нездоровых отношений. Эта книга адресована женщинам, которым еще предстоит узнать, что, если они не позаботятся о себе сами, никто другой не сделает этого за них. Она для женщин, которые постоянно отодвигают на задний план свои собственные потребности, чтобы привлечь или удержать мужчину. И для женщин, постепенно начинающих понимать, что в долгосрочной перспективе быть хорошей девочкой невыгодно. В особенности для женщин, которые в настоящее время подвергаются эмоциональному, словесному или физическому насилию.

В своей книге Беверли Энгл, психотерапевт с 35-летним стажем, рассматривает основные виды детских травм и предлагает "зеркальный метод" их исцеления. Описывая семь типов "кривых зеркал", которыми становятся для детей их родители, Энгл поясняет, как работать с каждым из них, чтобы отвергнуть негативные родительские проекции и поправить самооценку. Она подробно описывает, как воздействуют на детей чрезмерно критичные родители, родители-перфекционисты, родители-нарциссы, гиперопекающие родители, пренебрегающие родители, склонные к чрезмерному контролю родители, а также родители, которые бросали своих детей. Пройдя опросники и выполнив задания из книги, вы сможете выбраться из ловушки отражений прошлого, повысите самооценку, научитесь любить и уважать себя, лучше поймете свои истинные цели и мечты.

Часто так бывает, что вступая в новые отношения или находясь в них продолжительное время, мы жертвуем своей индивидуальностью, убеждениями, карьерой, друзьями, а иногда даже здравым смыслом. И часто этот процесс происходит незаметно для нас самих. Сначала мы уступаем, соглашаемся, а после уже отказываемся от "себя" как бы растворяясь в отношениях. Мы становимся "Исчезающими женщинами".

Книга Беверли Энгл дает нам ответ на вопрос почему так происходит и обучает конкретным стратегиям — как измениться прямо сейчас и стать отдельной яркой личностью в отношениях, которую ценят и уважают. Она также содержит советы о том, как поддерживать в себе чувство собственного достоинства и индивидуальности, которые помогут привлечь мужчину и заново открыть себя как "Существующую женщину".

Психологическое насилие трудно выявить, потому что оно скрыто, коварно и обманчиво. В книге «Любовь, которая убивает» Беверли Энгл, известный психотерапевт, шаг за шагом поможет пройти программу, которая освободит от оков абьюзивного партнера и сделает сильнее. Что бы вы ни хотели: остаться в отношениях или разорвать их, — вам нужно набраться смелости, силы и решимости противостоять абьюзеру.

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Эта книга для женщин, которые верят, что получить от окружающих любовь, принятие, заботу и ощущение безопасности возможно только будучи хорошей и удобной. Психотерапевт Беверли Энг предлагает авторскую программу, проверенную 35-летним опытом и основанную на правилах развития четырех «У»: уверенности, умений, убежденности и удивительной смелости. С помощью этой книги вы: - избавитесь от желания всем нравиться; - перестанете ставить чувства и потребности других людей выше собственных; - научитесь опираться на свое собственное Я; - раскроете потенциал, начнете поддерживать и защищать себя; - замените критикующий голос,…

&uot;Engel doesn't just describe-she shows us the way out." -Susan Forward, author of Emotional Blackmail Praise for the emotionally abusive relationship «In this book, Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offers step-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse. . . helping both victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and traumatic type of abuse. This book is a guide both for individuals and for couples stuck in the tragic patterns of emotional abuse.» -Marti Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse and coeditor of The Journal of Emotional Abuse «This groundbreaking book succeeds in helping people stop emotional abuse by focusing on both the abuser and the abused and showing each party what emotional abuse is, how it affects the relationship, and how to stop it. Its unique focus on the dynamic relationship makes it more likely that each person will grasp the tools for change and really use them.» -Randi Kreger, author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and owner of BPDCentral.com The number of people who become involved with partners who abuse them emotionally and/or who are emotionally abusive themselves is phenomenal, and yet emotional abuse is the least understood form of abuse. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, one of the world's leading experts on the subject, shows us what it is and what to do about it. Whether you suspect you are being emotionally abused, fear that you might be emotionally abusing your partner, or think that both you and your partner are emotionally abusing each other, this book is for you. The Emotionally Abusive Relationship will tell you how to identify emotional abuse and how to find the roots of your behavior. Combining dramatic personal stories with action steps to heal, Engel provides prescriptive strategies that will allow you and your partner to work together to stop bringing out the worst in each other and stop the abuse. By teaching those who are being emotionally abused how to help themselves and those who are being emotionally abusive how to stop abusing, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship offers the expert guidance and support you need.

Are you a Disappearing Woman? «Beverly Engel has identified a widespread problem and provided women with wise guidelines for bursting through it. She writes with compassion and insight. If you think you are a Disappearing Woman, you will drink in this book as if it were a health-giving elixir. It is!»-Susan Page, author of How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together and If I'm So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single? «This remarkably helpful book offers new insights into why so many women surrender their individuality in relationships. Don't wait until your hair is on fire to read it.»-Maxine Schnall, founder and Executive Director of Wives Self Help «A book of depth and power. I highly recommend it not only to women who lose themselves in their relationships with men but to the parents of adolescent girls who need to be taught how to view themselves as valuable beings separate from their relationships with men and boys.»-Michael Gurian, author of The Good Son and A Fine Young Man Do you frequently find yourself putting your lover's needs ahead of your own? Do you tend to lose yourself in your romantic relationships? Have you ever neglected your career, your friends, or even your health while in the midst of a love affair? Now, in this landmark book, Beverly Engel examines the intricate reasons why so many women submerge themselves in their relationships with men-and offers a straightforward, empowering program that you can use to free yourself from the powerful grip of this all-too-common problem and rediscover yourself as a Woman of Substance.

Healing Your Emotional Self «Emotionally abusive parents are indeed toxic parents, and they cause significant damage to their children's self-esteem, self-image, and body image. In this remarkable book, Beverly Engel shares her powerful Mirror Therapy program for helping adult survivors to overcome their shame and self-criticism, become more compassionate and accepting of themselves, and create a more posititve self-image. I strongly recommend it for anyone who was abused or neglected as a child.» –Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Toxic Parents «In this book, Beverly Engel documents the wide range of psychological abuses that so many children experience in growing up. Her case examples and personal accounts are poignant and powerful reminders that as adults, many of us are still limited by the defenses we formed when trying to protect ourselves in the face of the painful circumstances we found ourselves in as children. Engle's insightful questionnaires and exercises provide concrete help in the healing process, and her writing style is lively and engaging. This book is destined to positively affect many lives.» –Joyce Catlett, M.A., coauthor of Fear of Intimacy The Emotionally Abusive Relationship «Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offers step-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse . . . helping both victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and traumatic type of abuse.» –Marti Tamm Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse Loving Him without Losing You «A powerful and practical guide to relationships that every woman should read.» –Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D., author of Are You the One for Me?

Book DescriptionExpert guidance in stopping and recovering from abuse "We all have the power to break the cycle of abuse. In this remarkably powerful, wise, and compassionate book, Beverly Engel leads readers step by step through a program

Honor Your Anger is a clearly written, insightful look at a topic that concerns everyone. You can indeed learn to understand and manage your anger, and this book will show you how." –Robert Epstein, Ph.D., West Coast Editor, Psychology Today, Director Emeritus, Cambridge Center for Behavioral Studies, University Research Professor, California School of Professional Psychology «A critical first step for people who have trouble getting in touch with their anger and expressing it in direct and appropriate ways.» –Virginia Williams, Ph.D., coauthor of Anger Kills and Lifeskills Do you act out your anger in destructive or underhanded ways? Or do you suppress your anger and turn other people's abuse and criticism against yourself? Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. But if it's channeled in negative directions, anger can do real damage to you and your loved ones. In this provocative, healing book, psychotherapist Beverly Engel explains why your personal anger style may be hurting your relationships, your career, and yourself. She then shows you step by step how to transform a negative anger style into a positive one. Once you've discovered how to express your anger in healthy ways, you'll find that anger can empower you, motivate you to make important changes, and help you gain a sense of control over your life.

Your partner’s addiction takes a toll on both of your lives.That doesn’t mean you should turn your back on the person you love. We’ve been told that staying with a partner who struggles with addiction—whether it be with drugs, alcohol, or addictive behaviors—means that we’re enabling their destructive behavior. That wanting to help them means we’re codependent, and that the best thing for both of us is to walk away from the relationship entirely. But is that true?When Your Partner Has an Addiction challenges the idea that the best chance for recovery—for the addict and their partner—is to walk away. Instead, it makes the revolutionary claim that you, and the love you have for your partner, can be a key part of his or her journey to recovery.Together, addiction activist and bestselling author Christopher Kennedy Lawford and psychotherapist Beverly Engel, MFT, take a fresh look at addiction and codependency—the latest research on what causes them and what the two have in common. Rather than treat addiction or codependency as disease or weakness, When Your Partner Has an Addiction honors the trauma and shame that often lie at their source and shows you how to use your love to combat that shame, allowing you to more effectively support your partner and heal yourself.The research proves that, while you cannot “fix” your partner, you can have a positive impact on their recovery. Whether you suffer from codependency, and whether your partner is already in recovery, When Your Partner Has an Addiction provides you with proven techniques and strategies to drastically improve your relationship and help get your partner the help he needs—without leaving and while taking care of yourself in the process.

Beverly Engel brings her expertise to this important examination of the Jekyll and Hyde Syndrome—the first book to address this abusive syndrome. She discusses the origins of the disorder, names its seven major manifestations, explains how to identify Jekyll and Hyde behavior in other people and in oneself, and outlines clear steps for how to heal Jekyll and Hyde tendencies for good.

&uot;Fresh and useful . . . excellent practical advice . . . thorough and lucid . . . will be welcomed by many who have struggled to ask forgiveness and to forgive." -Publishers Weekly A finalist in the Books for a Better Life Awards competition! Discover the healing power of apology and put its magic to work in your life Do you have a difficult time apologizing or are you involved with someone who does? Do you tend to overapologize and appear weak in others' eyes? Do you want to reconcile with someone but feel they owe you an apology first? Do you need to apologize or make amends to someone but don't know how to go about it? In this inspiring book from internationally acclaimed therapist and self-improvement author Beverly Engel, you will learn why some people have difficulty apologizing while others tend to overapologize. You'll learn how to give a meaningful apology, how to ask for one, and how to receive one. From making amends with those you have hurt to dealing with someone who refuses to apologize to teaching children responsibility and empathy, this life-changing book shows you how to bring a healing new element of renewal into every relationship in your life. «Beverly Engel has eloquently explained the power of apology in a remarkably insightful and perceptive manner. No one has been better able to explain what an apology means and its role in reconciliation.» -Rabbi Charles A. Klein, author of How to Forgive When You Can't Forget: Healing Our Personal Relationships «Readers of this wise and lucid guide to the neglected art of authentic apology will acquire a powerful tool to help repair relationships with others and with themselves.» -Jeanne Safer, Ph.D., author of Forgiving and Not Forgiving: A New Approach to Resolving Intimate Betrayal «An engaging and in-depth book on a subject that has rarely been addressed so intelligently and thoroughly. Ms. Engel offers the reader specific suggestions that can help you improve all your relationships.» -Steven Farmer, M.F.T., author of Adult Children of Abusive Parents